Stop Focusing on “Being Right” and Start Focusing on Unity

group_hugContinued from here.

I have painted a sad picture of the Church this week, and I hope you are hearing the message. Church, we will be unable to stand if we don’t learn how to walk in unity. To do this, we must lay down our need to “be right” and prioritize being united with one another.

Now, I’m not saying that we never need to stand up for what is right. However, loving one another is more important than correcting one another. In fact, correction is best received within the context of love. To help me do this, I strive to live Micah 6:8:

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

It is my job to act/behave justly while loving mercy for you. So, when I see you stumbling in a particular area, I must behave as God calls me to act, “do right,” and love you even as you do not “do right.” Over time, as you see me walking in victory in an area in which you struggle, you will see how I act differently and experience different results. Over time, that will draw you toward changing your behavior.

For example, despite suffering severe and ongoing childhood abuse, I walk in emotional victory while many people who suffered less severe trauma do not. What’s different? I act justly by forgiving my childhood abusers while others continue to hate their wrongdoers. It’s not my place to judge those who are mired in emotional pain. I love them in their pain and draw them toward acting justly by acting justly myself. How would it benefit those who are walking in unforgiveness for me to break away from them because they are not “behaving right?” I can be unified with you, even as you live in unforgiveness, just as you are unified with me in my own areas of weakness. Each of us has a plank in our eye, so let’s not let the planks drive us apart. Let’s learn to walk together in unity, loving each other as we encourage one another to join together in pursuing God with our whole heart, mind, soul, and strength.

[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace smiling between the words “Group Hug.” Courtesy Bitmoji.]

 

Importance of Unity within the Body of Christ

i_give_up2Continued from here.

Unity is the secret to the success of a group, and Satan (sadly) knows this better than the Church does!

But when the Pharisees heard this, they said, “It is only by Beelzebul, the prince of demons, that this fellow drives out demons.” Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. If Satan drives out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then can his kingdom stand? ~ Matt. 12:24-26

We learn two very important points from this passage. The first is that if we, as a Church, are divided against ourselves, we will be ruined and unable to stand, which is exactly what has happened. We weaken ourselves as a Church by having only like parts congregate, whether it’s a small Sunday School class full of eyes or a megachurch full of ears. This is one reason I am drawn to interdenominational ministry, where we choose to focus on the bigger picture of Jesus being our Head and leave our denominational differences at the door as we choose to work together toward a common purpose (in my case, prison ministry).

Don’t miss the second point: Satan knows the power of unity in accomplishing one’s purpose. Unlike the Church, his hierarchy is not divided. He doesn’t have one demon driving out another – all work together in unity following his lead. Even though Satan is our enemy, he has a much stronger grasp on God’s principle of unity than the Church does. Perhaps that’s why, despite the prophecies throughout the Bible, he continues to fight what God has ordained. Perhaps he hopes that if he stirs up enough disunity within the Church, he can prevail after all. Of course, we know that God’s way WILL come to pass, but how many battles will we lose as a Church in the process because of our unwillingness to work together in unity?

To be continued…

[Graphic: Cartoon of a sad Grace holding a sign that says, “I give up.” Courtesy Bitmoji.]

 

Members of One Body Working Together in Unity

walkingContinued from here.

Sadly, many Christians do not understand that we need one another to function as a healthy Body of Christ. I cannot remember where I read this analogy, but it’s not original to me. Think about someone walking along a train track. If you only pay attention to what the eyes see, then everything looks great – no train in sight. However, the ears hear the train whistle while the feet sense the vibration of the train as it approaches from behind. Without other parts of the Body providing their perspective, the eyes are in jeopardy of being destroyed. The entire Body must work together in unity to have a full sense of where the Head is leading. I make up only one small part of the Body of Christ, and I do not have the full perspective of where the Head is leading. I need input from the other parts of the Body to know this.

What I do know is that the Head always leads the Body in one direction, never in multiple directions at the same time. When I choose to walk from Point A to Point B, I never tell my left foot to go one direction and the right foot to go another. As my head selects the destination, both feet work together in unity with my legs to take me where my head wants to go.

The same is the true of the Body of Christ. If you have a group of Christians – whether in a small Sunday School class or in a megachurch – who are supposedly hearing contrary messages from God, then the Body is not following the Head. Satan loves to stir up disunity among the Body of Christ because he knows we aren’t going to get very far if we are spending our time bickering about where God is leading. Dissension within the Body should drive us to our knees, and we should stay put until the Body receives a unified message from God about where He is leading us.

To be continued…

[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace smiling and walking. Courtesy Bitmoji.]

 

Prioritizing Unity over “Being Right”

ya_rightContinued from here.

When did we, as a Church, decide that “being right” takes priority over being unified? I don’t see that message in the Bible. Sure, God does bring His people to “remnant moments” where, after trying everything else, He does break His people apart, but this only happens after many, many chances for repentance. For example, God continued to protect Israel for hundreds of years, even though its kings were evil, because He loved His people and gave them chance after chance to repent.

I don’t see God ripping apart His people every time they did something that He disagreed with. The entire Bible is filled with people getting it wrong and God extending them grace … again and again and again. And yet, that’s not how we treat one another. We say either we do this RIGHT (= “my way”), or we’ll leave the small group, leave the local church/ministry, or even leave the denomination (or start a new one). And then everyone in that small group, local church, ministry, or denomination had better see things the same way, or it will be time to split again. Oh, how God must grieve this mentality!

And yet, we are never going to see things the same way because we are not all the same. We are all members of the same body, but we are not the same body parts. Thus, we are not going to see things the same way, just as an eye and a foot have a completely different perspective. Neither is “right” or “wrong” – it’s simply a different viewpoint based upon a different function. Rather than rejecting one another for seeing things differently, could we not learn to appreciate those differences and pull back to see a bigger picture as a Body? How can the Church possibly operate as a healthy Body when each local church only consists of eyes or feet?

To be continued…

[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace with her arms folded and saying, “Ya, Right.” Courtesy Bitmoji.]

 

Heartbreak of Disunity within the Church

broken_heartI write to you with a heavy heart this morning. My heart is heavy because I have been praying for the same thing daily for three years, and I’m not seeing much improvement as of yet. It’s a prayer for unity within the Church, and I’m not seeing much progress yet. It grieves me to see how fragmented the Church is and how few people even seem to care.

Oh, how it must grieve the heart of God to see the fragmentation within His beloved Church – the bride of Christ! How are we, as one people, to present ourselves as one Bride when we cannot get along with one another? We are so determined to “be right” that we overlook the commands to be unified:

How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity!” ~ Ps. 133:1

“I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one—I in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.” ~ John 17:22-23

“Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.” ~ Eph. 4:3

Why is it that God prioritizes unity and yet we, as Christians, care more about “being right?” Why are we willing to throw away unity in the pursuit of getting our own way – the type of music we like, or the sermon topic that we prefer, or the color carpeting in the sanctuary we deem best? Oh, how God’s heart must break to see division within His beloved Church as we bicker in the same way that the world does … or even worse! I actually find leading worldly volunteers to be easier than leading Christians because Christians expect to be extended grace whereas those in the world know that only so much dissension will be tolerated. How it must grieve God to see worldly pursuits accomplished with greater unity than His own Church!

To be continued…

[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace frowning inside a broken heart. Courtesy Bitmoji.]