Continued from here.
In his book, In Season: Embracing the Father’s Process of Fruitfulness, Wayne Jacobsen says that spiritually mature people are “softer and sweeter.” I have been surprised to recognize that I have become “softer and sweeter” and am excited to see what God plans to do with this fruit that has ripened after a long season of perseverance.
Lately, I have noticed that a lot more people are snapping at me. I know it’s not personal – they are in pain and lashing out simply because I am in the vicinity. When this happened in the past, I used to harden my heart to protect it from being hurt by the next outburst. Lately, though, I’ve noticed that I’m no longer tempted to do that. Because my “fruit” has become softer, the explosion of negative energy from the others seems to “bounce” off the soft fruit rather than harming me. It’s like the other person’s explosion of harshness needs more space, and my soft fruit is able to yield that space (humility) and accommodate the blow without my heart being harmed. I’m able to pray for the other person without feeling the need to protect my heart.
And when the other person is harsh, any cuts release the sweetness of the fruit that is ripening for harvest. When people used to lash out at me, my reaction was either to withdraw & protect my heart or to fight back. I now do neither. This maturing fruit has enabled me to react in sweetness, even when the other person is being harsh. This is a new experience for me, and I’m excited to see what God is going to do with this ripe fruit!
Jacobsen pointed out that being softer and sweeter is not the World’s way. The World says we must harden ourselves and stand first. However, I’ve found a beauty and peace in becoming softer – in yielding the space to the other person’s ego and allowing sweetness rather than bitterness to ooze out of me when the fruit is cut. I don’t need to protect myself. I trust that God is in control, and I react in kindness and love—to God’s glory! Only God could have brought about this transformation within me because I am not naturally a soft or sweet person!
[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace smiling over the word, “Sweet.” Courtesy Bitmoji.]