A Salute to the “Good Guys”

My favorite blogger, hands down, is Gary Thomas – author of several books on godly marriage, such as Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband. I subscribe to his blog and read every blog entry he posts. If you have never read one of his blog entries, I hope you will change that today. His blog entries are much longer than mine, but he generally rolls them out weekly, so it all evens out.

While Gary Thomas’ blog entries typically address an aspect of marriage, the topics often transcend marriage, making them worth reading even if you are not married. He recently wrote a blog entry entitled The Good Guys, which I have been pondering since I read it, and it’s applicable to anyone with a man in your life, whether it’s a husband, father, son, friend, pastor, neighbor, or whatever. I encourage you to go read his excellent blog entry now. Don’t worry – I’ll wait. Click here.

Thomas’ blog article opened with the stories of three men who, in his words, “heroically serve, honor, respect, support and cherish their wives.” I’m married to a man like this – one of the “good guys.” He takes his responsibility of providing for his family seriously. He has given me many options for work throughout our 27-year marriage. I’ve had seasons of not working outside the home, both without and with a child. I’ve had seasons of working both part-time and full-time. I’ve had seasons of driving a ridiculously long commute by my own choice, and I’ve had seasons of what I call the “8 step commute” as I telecommuted from home. I’ve worked as a lawyer, a temp secretary, a program administrator, a technical writer, an instructional designer, an online college instructor, and an executive director in the nonprofit world. I’ve worked in jobs that paid well with great benefits and in jobs with low pay and no benefits. My career path over the last 27 years has been all over the map, mostly by my own choice.

What has enabled me to have the freedom to work or not work? To work long hours or only part-time? To change from one career option to another? I’m married to a man whose career path has not varied. He’s worked the same long hours in the same stressful career for 27 years, continually sacrificing for his family to give me these options. Thomas is right – there’s a double standard that favors wives, and yet far too many women fail to appreciate the sacrifices the men in their lives make for them.

To be continued…

[Graphic: Cover of Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband. Courtesy Amazon.]