Continued from here.
In his book, In Season: Embracing the Father’s Process of Fruitfulness, Wayne Jacobsen compares a spiritually mature person with grapes that are ready to be harvested. He says that in both cases, you know that the fruit is mature because it is “softer and sweeter.” He says that God “is about finished” with maturing us when “softness and sweetness … floods our demeanor.”
God called me into professional ministry in 2017, and I have learned so much over the past 16 months. One of the biggest lessons I have learned is how to respond gently to those who are not being gentle with me. This comment is not aimed at those I am leading … it’s an issue in every area of my life! I entered into professional ministry naïve – I was unaware that being in professional ministry meant I was putting a bullseye on myself, inviting the enemy to launch wave after wave of spiritual attack. I had lots of experience with spiritual attack at the personal level, so the enemy used a tactic I did not see coming – he launched attacks against the people around me.
Since I have been in professional ministry, I spend a greater portion of my time dealing with people who are in pain … again, this is not a statement about the people I am leading so much as a large percentage of the people I spend my time with, including family, friends, neighbors, church family, as well as those I interact with through my ministry. People who are in pain (myself included!) often lash out at those around them. It’s not intentional – they are reacting to something that is broken and wounded inside of themselves. I used to become extremely ornery whenever I was in physical pain – so much so that my family would avoid me as best they could to protect themselves from my wrath.
The enemy has learned that I’m too stubborn to stop serving God when he wreaks havoc that only affects me, so he seeks to distract me by wreaking havoc in the lives of the people I care about. So, since I have been in professional ministry, I have had lots of opportunities to develop the fruit of self-control as I choose not to react when people lash out at me. It’s only been recently that I have noticed that God has grown me into a “softer and sweeter” person, making it much easier to control myself when those around me take out their frustrations on or around me.
To be continued…
[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace smiling, surrounded by hearts, and saying, “You’re the sweetest.” Courtesy Bitmoji.]