Continued from here.
As I begin the process of walking away from the pity party, I expand my thanks beyond my own personal comforts by remembering God’s past faithfulness. In the process, I remind myself that God was enough before, and He is enough now. It goes something like this:
- If you had only provided me salvation so I could avoid hell and go to heaven, it would have been enough.
- If you had only healed the eating disorder, it would have been enough.
- If you had only stopped the nightmares, it would have been enough.
- If you had only stopped the self-injury, it would have been enough.
- If you had only healed the panic attacks, it would have been enough.
- If you had only brought me my son after years of infertility, it would have been enough.
- If you had only healed my son after major back surgery, it would have been enough.
- If you had only healed my marriage, it would have been enough.
As I go through this process, I gradually remove myself as the center of my focus and return it back where it belongs – onto God. He is more than enough. He is faithful. He is good. Nothing good comes from engaging in a pity party, but much good comes from remembering the God who has always been faithful.
The final step is to go be a blessing to someone else. I know I am vulnerable to the siren song of self-pity, so I need to get my mind off my own pain. An effective way to do this is to stop thinking about myself at all and, instead, replace those thoughts with how I can bless someone else. I can invite a lonely friend/acquaintance to lunch, donate items to a charity, send a card to someone who is in physical or emotional pain, look up a Bible verse that meets someone else’s needs, or choose from a myriad of other ways to be a blessing to someone else. As I shift my focus to being a blessing to others, I am empowered to walk away from the lure to participate in a pity party, which brings glory to God.
[Graphic: Cartoon of Grace crying as her tears reach nose-level. Courtesy Bitmoji.]